When even the vulva becomes an insecurity
There comes a time, for many of us, when the long list of insecurities that accompany us, a new one is added, silent but powerful: the one related to the appearance of one's intimate area.
As if worrying about body, face, hair wasn't enough... at a certain point even the vulva seems to want to be "different from how it is".
🎥 The role of pornography
In an attempt to understand why this happens, we cannot ignore the weight of pornography.
Because in traditional media the representation of female genitals is practically absent, the first real confrontation with other people's bodies often happens through porn.
And there, what do we see?
- Smooth, hairless skin
- Uniform color
- Symmetrical, small and “perfect” lips
- No signs, redness, folliculitis
An aesthetic ideal far from reality, but which ends up shape our perception.
👀 All different (and all normal)
Let's be clear: vaginal lips are not all the same.
Second a study of Healthline, they exist at least eight common forms, from long to short, from symmetrical to asymmetrical, from flat to prominent.
And yet… in mainstream porn we always see the same type of vulva.
Result? More and more women are starting to feeling "wrong", up to considering the labiaplasty (vulvar surgery) as the only way to feel “okay”.
📈 Not surprisingly, it is one of the fastest growing cosmetic surgeries in the world.
💡 What if everything was normal?
The pressure is so strong that we find ourselves: asking to turn off the light during sex, feeling uncomfortable with our partner, justify ourselves for how we are made or living sexuality with anxiety and shame
Nevertheless, what makes us uncomfortable is often what makes us unique.
🔁 The change has begun
The good news? The wind is changing.
In recent years a new awareness has grown aboutfemale self-esteem, on the body diversity and on the importance of to see themselves represented for what one is.
The world of porn is also slowly evolving, with more ethical and inclusive productions, which show real bodies and authentic sexualities, helping us regain confidence and identity.
💬 Talking, sharing, comparing is the first step.
🌸 Accepting yourself is revolutionary
More and more women are saying enough with unrealistic standards and rediscovering the power of love each other for who they are, instead of trying to fit a stereotype.
It is a silent but powerful revolution, which passes through the dialogue, the sharing and a new way of looking at yourself: kinder, truer, freer.
Today, like every day, it is important to remember that beauty is not imposed on us from outside, but it is born within. It is a journey that begins from respect for one's body, for its shapes, its differences, its uniqueness.
Instead of chasing distant ideals, let us learn to celebrate our body in its entirety, taking care of it with love, listening and awareness.
Why every woman is precious and unique and true happiness comes from the ability to embrace ourselves, just as we are.
